Real Mama: Erin Foskett
Tell us a little about yourself…
I’m a small town girl who grew up in a very close-knit family. I was somewhat of a tomboy playing sports and am now married to my high school sweetheart (and we’re still happy and in love, 10 years later).
We quickly became mom and dad to the happiest little man just two years after our wedding. I received my bachelor’s degree in marketing at Bryant College back in 2007 and now work at a digital marketing agency in the Boston area as a Creative Project and Account Manager.
Balancing life as a wife, mama and working professional is not always easy — but I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Where is home?
Home is Charlton, a small town about 45 minutes outside of Boston, Massachusetts. I have lived here basically my whole life and wouldn’t have it any other way. I’ve married into one of the most well-known families in town, so to say we’re “townies” is an understatement.
What are your secrets to balancing life as a working mama and loving wife?
Allow others to help you. As much as it kills me sometimes, it’s impossible for me to do it all as a working mama, so I’ve had to recruit the help of family and friends many times.
Mr. C is fortunate enough to be able to spend time with both sets of grandparents during the week while my husband and I are at work. He adores them all and, while I wish I could stay home with him, I know he is in great hands!
Who has been your biggest inspiration?
My mother. My relationship with her has been one of the biggest reasons why I wanted to be a mother myself. You can’t truly appreciate all of the work your parents did raising you until you take on that responsibility for yourself.
It’s funny, I used to celebrate my birthdays, as any young girl does, with family and friends and a cocktail in hand. These past couple of birthdays since having Mr. C, I’ve thought of my mother and what she was doing at that moment all those years ago! Again, something that doesn’t really occur to you until you’ve been through child birth.
My mom is the best wife, friend, teacher, healer, therapist, shopping and gossip buddy — a shoulder to cry on and support system — I have ever been fortunate enough to know. I can only hope that I will turn out to be as great an inspiration to my son, someday, as she is to me.
What has been the best advice you’ve received as a mama? What do you feel is the best advice, if any, you’ve given as a mama?
Make memories that last. Everything goes by so quickly and it feels like the first year sped by in a flash! Take time to let special moments sink in.
Snap lots of pictures! Shoot videos on a regular basis.
Laugh. Play. Wrestle.
Oh, and give lots of hugs and steal kisses whenever you can — it will only get harder as this little boy grows up.
My advice to others? Don’t dwell on the small things. Stuff will happen that you just cannot plan for. There will be accidents. There will be boo-boos. Birthday cake will fall on the floor right before the birthday boy blows out the candles. The dog will bark and wake up the napping baby.
None of it is your fault — and if it actually is your fault, forgive yourself.
We take on so much as mamas and no one is perfect. Your children will not remember those little accidents when they look back on their life in 25 years. They will remember all of the fun you had, the memories you created as a family and just how much their mama loved them!
Are you the kind of mama you thought you’d be?
I always knew that my heart would be overflowing with love, pride and joy when I had children. I knew that as a mama you step into an important role where you give or do anything for that little person. All of that I was expecting.
However, I was surprised at just how deep that love, pride and joy would be; and how protective I turned out to be. My entire world has been flipped upside down and it feels like my heart is outside of my chest, in the most amazing way, and I can’t even remember a time before I was a mother.
Where do you see yourself in ten years?
It’s hard to look past where I see myself in 10 minutes, let alone 10 years, but ideally I would love to be at a place where I can work part-time in order to spend more time with my (not-so-) little man, while still being able to maintain pride in the successful business woman I have worked so hard to become.
If you could have any super power, what would it be?
I already have one, it’s called being Super Mom. But really? I would like to have healing ability.
Was your birth experience all that you had hoped it would be? If you could go back and change anything, what would it be?
My birth experience was all that I had hoped it would be, and nothing like I had expected it to be.
After pushing for more than two hours with little success, I was told that an emergency c-section was in my future. At that moment I was crushed, after so much work, we still had to resort to surgery. But at the same time, all that mattered was getting our baby boy out safely. And that’s exactly what we did.
How has your mothering evolved since those early newborn days? Is there anything, thus far, in your approach to mothering that you swore you’d never do and now you are?
I felt a little clueless at first, not really having any previous babysitting experience or much exposure to children. To be perfectly honest, I was not always the biggest fan of kids (I know, that is probably terrible to admit).
But the thing with motherhood is that you just figure a lot of it out as you go. That’s definitely the approach we’ve taken in our house and I’ve got to say, we’re pretty proud of the amazingly smart and happy boy we’ve raised so far!