Real Mama: Nicole Scott

I have known Nicole now for over seven years. We “met” on a popular mama website when both of our eldest girls were newborns. Since that time we have kept in contact, and although we have never met person, Nicole has always been a great support to me. She is an amazing mama with a beautiful outlook on life. She is a dedicated runner and has even motivated other mamas in our group to begin their running journeys as well. Recently she started a website, My Fit Family, where she encourages other families to eat healthy and live active lifestyles.

Tell us a little about yourself.

I’m 34 years old and I’ve been married to my best friend, Chris, for eight years. Together we have four sweet kiddos-a seven-year-old daughter, four-year-old boy and girl twins, and a seven-month-old baby boy. I used to be a first grade teacher, but once I had my first child, I knew my heart wasn’t in it anymore-I wanted to stay home with my children.

I left my job as a teacher when my oldest was two years old and I was pregnant with my twins-I’ve been a stay at home mama ever since. A year after my first daughter was born I started running, and it has become a passion of mine. I also enjoy writing, and recently decided to act on a dream that I’ve had, to blend those two passions-fitness and writing, into a business. For the longest time I didn’t consider myself a ‘real runner’ or a ‘real writer’—it was something other people were good at. But lately it’s how I identify myself-as a wife, mother, runner and writer.

Where is home?

Right now home is in Austin, Texas. My husband and I made a big decision a little over three years ago to move across the country leaving all our friends and family behind, but for a better opportunity for our family. With the move, we grew stronger as individuals, as a couple and as a family. Though it’s hard being away from family, we’ll never regret our decision, because so much good has come from it.

Originally I’m from a small town in central California, but I moved to San Diego for college and never went back home. It’s where my husband and I met, got married, bought our first home, and had our first three children-San Diego will always hold a special place in my heart.

What are your secrets to balancing your life as a work from home mama?

I put all my time and energy into the people that I love the most-my family. I try not to ‘over-schedule’ my life because I’m a happier person, wife, and mama when I’m not feeling stressed to be a million places at one time. I’m a stay at home mama but also just recently started an online health and fitness community for families. I’m still in a stage where I’m figuring out how to balance the time it takes to write for the site and run the social media aspect to it, all while handling my usual day to day activities as a mama of four. I’m not a super organized person but I have found a system that works for me-getting work done before the kids get up and after they go to bed.

Also, my husband I try to make sure we have time every day where we can talk, without being interrupted by four little voices. Because we have experienced firsthand how easy it can be to focus solely on the kids and neglect our relationship. By talking without kid interruptions (including no TV or iPhones in hand) and having lunch and run dates sans kids, I feel my life has balance as both a wife and mama. I prioritize my life by what’s most important and for me, that will always be my family.

Who has been your biggest inspiration?

Without a doubt, my mom. I have memories of going to work with her and being so proud that she worked hard to help support our family. I got to watch my mom go from working minimum wage jobs with a high school education, to putting herself through school, and in her forties becoming a Registered Nurse. She’s the hardest worker I know-in both her career and as a mother to her five children. She has the most selfless heart and I can only hope my children have an ounce of her kindness, strength and determination.

What has been the best advice you’ve received as a mama? What do you feel is the best advice, if any, that you’ve given as a mama?

You know how every little old lady stops you at the store to tell you ‘cherish each moment because it goes by so fast’?-it’s such true and wise advice! I don’t think it fully hit me until my oldest started kindergarten. How did my BABY get so big?! She’s in second grade now and time is just flying by.

So though it’s hard to cherish the tantrums, the sleepless nights and all the other difficult moments of being a mama-I try not to wish it away because those tough times will be faded memories and I’ll miss the little hand prints on my windows, the snuggles late at night over a bad dream, and tying shoelaces on itty bitty feet when we are running late.

I think the advice I would give to any mama is: don’t forget to take care of yourself. It doesn’t matter if you’re a working mama or a stay at home mama-our lives are all about having a servant’s heart to the little people we call our children. Sometimes we forget and neglect to take care of ourselves-both physically and emotionally. You’ll be a better mama, wife and woman if you don’t constantly let yourself run on empty.

Are you the kind of mama you thought you’d be?

Oh, not at all! This is probably surprising to some since I’m a mama of four, but in my early 20s, when I was first teaching, I had decided that I never wanted to be a mother. Looking back, I realize I just hadn’t met the right person. Once I met my husband I knew immediately that I wanted to have a family-and a big one! But I thought I’d be a mama who kept her career. I was shocked when I found that I was miserable as a working mama-it just wasn’t for me!

Where do you see yourself in ten years?

I can’t believe I’ll be a mama to three teenagers and a 10-year-old! I hope by that time my website is successful and maybe I’ll even have a book published. But mostly, I hope I’m always happy with my life, no matter where I am.

If you could have lunch with anyone famous (dead or alive) who would it be?

A few years ago I read a biography on Salvador Dali and fell in love with his ‘weirdness’ (says this self-professed weirdo!). I would love to be able to sit down and talk with him about his paintings, his life and what is going on in his crazy head.  

If you could have any superpower, what would it be?

I’d trade all the superpowers in the world to have a laundry fairy instead!

Was your birth experience all that you hoped it would be? If you could go back and change anything, what would it be?

I’ve had three births and all were dramatically different from each other! With my first daughter, I was hoping for a natural delivery but ended up demanding an epidural by seven centimeters. In the end, I had no regrets though because everything went well and recovery was wonderful. I was hoping to avoid a Cesarean section with my twins, even if it meant my OB having to manually turn Baby B during delivery, but because Baby A never turned head down, I was forced into a C-section. It was not a great experience for me-the room was filled with people, the two OBs were talking golf, all the while I was wondering what was going on. When my twins were born they let me hold my daughter for a moment but had started wheeling me out for recovery-forgetting that they hadn’t let me see my son! I didn’t get to see him for over an hour later, and I’ll never forget that feeling of not being able to see and touch my baby the moment he came into the world. Also, the recovery was extremely difficult compared to my first. With my third delivery, I wanted to avoid a C-section, so I found an OB willing to do a VBAC. I went overdue and had to schedule an induction, which I wasn’t happy about. Thankfully, on induction day, I went into labor on my own and had a successful VBAC! Even though I wasn’t happy with the C-section experience, I wouldn’t have changed a thing because it was necessary to ensure my twins were born safely-but maybe I would have asked the doctors to stop the golf-talk.

How has your mothering evolved since those early newborn days? Is there anything, thus far, in your approach to mothering that you swore “I’d never do…” and you are?

I had no clue what I was doing with my first child! Sometimes I still feel that way! But I’ll admit to having said, “I’ll never co-sleep” with my first three-and with my fourth who struggled with sleep for so many months, well, he’s in Mama’s bed and we couldn’t be happier. We all get sleep and I’m cherishing getting to snuggle my last baby. I feel more relaxed now as a mama and I’ve learned above all, to trust my ‘mommy intuition’.

Do you have a mama mantra? Or something you find yourself repeating over and over when times are tough?

My fourth baby was born with reflux. So nights, for many, many months, were sleepless for me. I’d be up all night holding him upright so he could sleep. It was a very hard time in my life, both physically and emotionally. In those seemingly endless and long sleepless nights, the lyrics from one of my favorite bands would repeat over and over in my head: “It’s always darkest before the dawn.” I would be so exhausted, and yet I knew with a new day, I would be able to face things, no matter how tired I was. And I find that true for any tough time-it always gets really, really hard, before it gets better. It always gets better.

Is there anything else you wish to share with the Mama Say What?! audience?

There is so much advice, and sadly judgment, out there on how to do things ‘the right way.’ Find what works for you and your individual family-you’ll be happier marching to the beat of your own (weird) drum.

One Response to Real Mama: Nicole Scott

  1. What a beautiful family :)

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