Mommy & Me

As mamas, we do our best to capture our kids’ moments on “film.” We want to make sure to capture their first smile, rolling over, walking, crawling, first solids, and on and on and on.

We know the memories are fleeting and important and we want to capture them for posterity.

Want to know what we aren’t so good at? Being in front of the lens.

When there is a camera in the room, we tend to do one of two things, take a photo or hide from the camera. We hide because we don’t want to be captured on “film” when our hair isn’t perfectly coifed, our face is au natural, or in our mama uniform— you know, yoga pants and a tank top. Forget any professional photos, because we are waiting to lose the baby weight, or the ten pounds we put on after Christmas, or we want to fit into the perfect outfit, or whatever your excuse may be.

I know I am guilty of this and I hear it all the time from clients and friends.

Well, I am here to tell you that you need to stop that. You need to stop hiding. To your kids you are perfect and beautiful. Whether you capture it on film or not, they will remember you. They won’t remember that you were “fat” or never wore makeup or wore yoga pants all day. They will remember you… but will they remember the moments?

I love looking back at old family photos. I love to see what my dad looked like as a baby, what my Grammie and Poppa looked like on their wedding day, the joy on their faces the day I was born, my mama pregnant with me or my brother, and on and on. I am sure they all had photos that they didn’t love about themselves, but I don’t see those imperfections, I see my family and where we have come from.

A few years ago I stumbled across this article, She Left Proof {Aleida’s Challenge}, and totally resonated with it. I realized at that moment that I was guilty of taking hundreds of photos of N, occasionally some with my husband in them, but I was rarely in a photo with N.

I needed to change what I was doing. I wanted to have photos to pass down to N, to my grandchildren, to my great-grandchildren. If, God forbid, something happened to me, I wanted N to have photos showing our love and bond, photos showing him that I was there and present.

I shared that article with this group of mamas and the responses were the same as mine… realizing they didn’t have many photos with their littles, that they were always the one behind the camera, that they had been so busy, even on Mother’s Day, that they didn’t have a photo of them with their kids.

It prompted us to start a weekly post we call Mommy and Me Mondays. Every Monday we did our best to have a photo of us with our littles. We didn’t care if it was a professional shot, from our swanky DSLR, or a crummy blurry cell phone photo. What mattered was that we were in the photo with our kids. What mattered was we were capturing the love and bond we have with them. Still, two and a half years later, I look forward to Mondays to see what photos are going to be posted.

Are you guilty of not getting in the shot? I challenge you to get in the shot more! Your kids will appreciate it when they are older.

And keep an eye out for how to better get in the photo.

4 Responses to Mommy & Me

  1. I am so guilty of this, I’m usually the one taking photos. Since reading Aleida’s Challenge a while back, I have been making more of an effort to get in front of the lens and ask my husband to take photos… which he’s actually really good at. :-) I need to ask my brother to take more too, he’s a photographer!

    Looking back, I wish my mom had been told this… we have so few photos of her with us when we were young kids and almost no photos of her when she was pregnant since she didn’t feel all that well when pregnant. In her defense though, taking photos and having film developed was sometimes expensive and not nearly as easy as it is for us now with digital photography and cameras on our phones. Moms these days, we have no excuse!

  2. Yes ma’am! I never really thought about it like that, but it is really true. Ok it is not New Years anymore so I will make a mid year resolution to make more printed memories with my little ladies, well with everyone!

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