Real Mama: Corey P.

Image by Van Pelt Photography

Tell us a little about yourself…

I am a 26-year-old mama to two amazing little men. Landon was born in April of 2011 and Ryan was born in September of 2012.

I grew up in a small town in Colorado and I went to college at Colorado State, where I studied psychology and biomedical sciences. I attended Loyola University Maryland and earned a master’s degree in clinical psychology while working at Kennedy Krieger Institute’s Center for Autism and Related Disorders.

I got married in 2010, and had Landon nine months later! We moved back to Colorado to be near our families and I currently work as a developmental specialist in the neurology department at Children’s Hospital Colorado.

Where is home? 

My family and I bought a house in a suburb just outside of Denver, Colorado in November of 2011.

What are your secrets to balancing your life as a loving wife and working mama? 

I don’t know that I have any secrets!

I would say that balancing life, especially as a working mama, is an ever-moving target. For a short time in the year after Landon was born, I really felt like I had pulled everything together— you get into a routine! However, all of that has since changed after the birth of my second son, Ryan.

I am trying to find a new routine that will help to create balance in my life. I think the biggest secret is that this balance is different for everyone and it may be different from year to year,  it’s all about finding what works for you.

Who has been your biggest inspiration? 

My mom; she has overcome some of the most difficult of obstacles but has never ceased to be such an amazing woman and inspiration to me. I can always call her when I am having a bad day and know that know matter what she will always be there for me.

What has been the best advice you’ve received as a mama? What do you feel is the best advice, if any, that you’ve given as a mama?
 
The best advice that I have received is that you can’t do it all, so accept help when it’s offered.

I would say the best advice I have given is to take a few minutes every day to step back and live in those moments.  It’s so easy to get caught up in everything you have going on, but you will miss these moments when they’ve passed.

Are you the kind of mama you thought you’d be?

Yes and no. (don’t we all say that?!) In a lot of ways I am actually a better mama than I thought I would be. I love my boys more than I ever dreamed possible and love (almost) every minute I spend with them.

I am not always quite as patient as I had hoped I would be and still probably spend far too much time working and cleaning.

I’m still growing and learning as a mama for sure.

Where do you see yourself in ten years? 

I will be a mama of a 10-year old and an 11-year-old, wow that sounds strange! I hope to have found time to have finished some more schoolwork toward achieving a PhD and, perhaps, have found a way to spend some more time at home by working part-time. I hope I have found a way to balance my health/exercise routine and my active family. I am so looking forward to enjoying my boys activities with them!

If you could have lunch with anyone famous (dead or alive) who would it be? 

Hmm, that’s a great question and could probably be a really inspirational look into someone’s psyche, but I’m really not sure. I feel like I should be inclined to mention a transitional politician or peace-leader/activist but I just cannot name anyone specifically. Plus… I’m so busy trying to get my work finished during lunch, plus pumping, that it would probably be a super awkward lunch anyway.

If you could have any super power, what would it be?

That’s a tough one… I think if I could make myself be in two places at once, that would be optimal! I would love to be able to be able to spend all of my time with my boys while also going to work, getting all of the groceries picked up, the house cleaned, etc… the list goes on and on, really.

Image by Bella Baby Photography

Was your birth experience all that you hoped it would be? If you could go back and change anything, what would it be? 

You know, for both boys, I can say yes and no. I think there are a lot of things I would change about both of my birth experiences but in the end it doesn’t change the kind of mother I am. As cliche as it sounds, it doesn’t matter how they got here, just that they did!

How has your mothering evolved since those early newborn days? Is there anything, thus far, in your approach to mothering that you swore “I’d never do…” and you are?

Oh yes! And even more so since baby #2 has arrived! There are lots of things I would never do… and to be honest lots of things that I didn’t do with Landon that I know am forced to do with Ryan.

I am a different mother than I thought I would be, especially to Ryan, my second, because I just don’t have the same amount of time that I can devote solely to him. That being said, things have been better than I expected and I now that in time I will pull it all together!

Is there anything else you wish to share with the Mama Say What?! audience?

Give yourself a break, you won’t be perfect all of the time (or even part of the time). But hopefully, you are making the best decisions you can with what you have at the time and your little ones don’t know any different.

Breathe in and out! The days are long but the years are short and as much as we may not believe it on some days, we will look back on these years and have only happy memories.

 

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