Real Mama: Debbie F.

Tell us a little about yourself…

My name is Debbie. I’m 30 years old and a letter carrier for the United States Post Office. I love to read, bake and try new restaurants. I’m a mama to a beautiful little girl named Anara who is almost two years old.

Where is home?

Home, at the moment, is San Antonio, Texas.

What are your secrets to balancing your life as a loving wife and working mama?

When I find myself frustrated in any situation, I try to remind myself to step back and collect myself. When we first brought her home, I would lose my temper with my husband (or anyone who crossed me) very easily. Now that my daughter is old enough to know how to push some of my buttons, and is learning how to push more and more everyday, I am forced to push myself to be the most patient person that I can be. And with her sweet face, it’s easier than I thought it would be.

Image by Trista Lerit Photography

Who has been your biggest inspiration?

I don’t know that I have a singular person of inspiration. I get inspired by people everyday — people I know and people I’ve just met, even people I read about. The people who inspire me are those who are optimistic, realistic, passionate, considerate and easy going.

What has been the best advice you’ve received as a mama? What do you feel is the best advice, if any, that you’ve given as a mama?

The best advice I’ve received is to do what I feel is right, and ignore what I feel is wrong. I try not to give advice unless specifically asked. But if I am asked, I like to relay the same advice I was given, as well as the fact that every child is different, and to keep that in mind before following someone else’s advice or comparing.

Are you the kind of mama you thought you’d be?

I never really thought about the mama I’d be because I knew it would depend on the child I had. I believe that every child is born with their personality and that the parents have to adjust accordingly while being patient and loving. I do feel that I am both.

Patience has always been my Achilles’ heel, and I was so nervous throughout my pregnancy that I would not be able to display it once she was here, but it has come quite naturally.

I did think I would be the crafty, baking, cooking mama that I always wished I had growing up, but I find that I am too tired most days and I do the best I can.

Where do you see yourself in ten years?

I see myself in the same place, both geographically and vocationally, but with a few more stamps in my passport and a beautiful little “tween” on my hands.

If you could have lunch with anyone famous (dead or alive) who would it be?

I want to have lunch with Adam Richman! There are a lot of celebrities I think would be fun to have a drink with, but if we’re doing food, it has to be Richman. He looks like he can throw down and he won’t bat an eye if I devour my food. Plus he knows all the best spots!

If you could have any super power, what would it be?

Omnipotence! Or the power to heal with the touch of my finger.

Was your birth experience all that you hoped it would be? If you could go back and change anything, what would it be?

My birth experience was NOTHING that I hoped it would be and I still have not come to terms with that almost two years later. If I could go back, I would have punched my nurse in the face. Okay, maybe not, but I would have spoken up for myself more.

How has your mothering evolved since those early newborn days? Is there anything, thus far, in your approach to mothering that you swore “I’d never do…” and you are? 

I finally feel like we have a “groove”. I understand her wants and needs, we have (flexible) schedules, my husband and I fight much less, and everything seems to have returned to normal. The first year seems like such a fog.

One thing I swore I’d never do is let my child get hooked on electronics. She now has a few favorite shows and a slew of favorite apps.

One Response to Real Mama: Debbie F.

  1. Such a great Mama! Love all your pictures too, Anara is beautiful!

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