Real Mama: Jady M.

Tell us a little about yourself…

I’m a 37-year-old first-time mama to the sweetest and most curious little 10-month-old girl. My early childhood was spent in Brooklyn, NY and then my family made its way to Florida where I went to high school, college and ultimately met and married Superman (aka my husband Jason).

If you had told me just a short five years ago that this would be my life I would have looked at you in disbelief and then laughed in your face. I really am very fortunate and thrilled that this is where life led me.

Image by Jessica Charles Photography

Where is home?

We moved to Nashville, TN, a little over a year ago. We recently decided to put down roots here and we bought a house. We hope to create a lot of happy childhood memories for our “Bugaboo,” Everleigh, and look forward to seeing her take her first steps and say her first words and have lots of other firsts.

What are your secrets to balancing your life as a traveling and working mama?

I don’t know that I have any secrets other than to try different things until you find what works for your family. As a full-time working mother who travels about 70% of the year (I work from home the rest of the time), it can definitely be a struggle to fit everything in.

I’ve found that we are happiest when we prioritize things and are clear about what we want to do versus what we need to do. We understand that what other households need might just be a want for us and vice versa, and that this can change at any given point.

My husband and I both work full-time so we try to cherish every waking moment with our daughter. Would I love to have a pristine home and to be able to work on craft projects and take longer showers? I sure would, but I am also perfectly content to clean the toilets less often, skip the windows and generally let some things slide if I get to really be in the moment with my little Bug Bug. The time will come soon enough (sooner than I want I’m sure) when she won’t need or want me by her side as much so I am going to soak up every moment of it while it lasts.

Image by Jennie Pyfferoen Photography

Who has been your biggest inspiration?

My mama is my biggest inspiration. She’s the best. The absolute best!

She frustrates me like no one else does and understands me like no one else does. If I can be half as dedicated, loving and selfless with my own child as she was with me and my siblings, then my daughter will be the luckiest little girl. I can only hope and dream that Everleigh one day feels about me the way I feel about her Abuelita.

What has been the best advice you’ve received as a mama? What do you feel is the best advice, if any, that you’ve given as a mama?

I was told to relax and follow my gut. Once I got over my initial new mama nervousness, that really resonated with me. When I talk to new mamas or mamas-to-be, I just give a more expanded version of that piece of advice. For me, it doesn’t mean not to listen to doctors or read all the books but to be informed and educated and also follow your heart.

No one knows your little one and your family needs and dynamics better than you. As long as your family’s safety (including your own), well-being and happiness is paramount in your world, you are probably doing what is best for you and yours. Relax, try to trust yourself and be in the moment. It really does go by as fast as everyone says it will!

Are you the kind of mama you thought you’d be?

Yes and no. I thought I would still exercise my inner Martha Stewart once babies came on the scene, except it would be child-centric. Ha! I do bake here and there and cook from scratch here and there and manage the very occasional craft project but no, I do not live up to all my Pinterest boards, haha. I have mostly just mastered the art of finding what I want or need on Etsy. ;)

If you could have any superpower, what would it be?

I would chose to have a super-fast metabolism. Is that a superpower or just being a supermodel, haha?

I think I would love to be able to somehow compress the benefits of ten hours of peaceful restorative uninterrupted sleep into four hours. I’d be golden!

Also, I’d like to be able to travel with the snap of a finger. It’d be great for travel to exotic far-flung places but also allow me to keep doing my job with all of its great benefits and see my family every night too.

Image by Brittney Shey Photography

I followed enough blogs and talked to enough mamas to know not to fall into the “I’ll never do that” trap, so thankfully I haven’t had to eat my words… Yet!

My mothering has evolved for sure. I am more relaxed now and have realized that if I change my perspective or my perception of a situation, it impacts how I react and how I feel. I try really hard to find the joy in a moment that might seem like a negative on the surface. For example, Everleigh was, until recently, a frequent nurser (every 60 – 90 minutes for the first 6-7 months) and also woke frequently through the night. It was exhausting and frustrating in the beginning, but when I looked at those nursing sessions as very limited bonding opportunities that were available to only me, my frustration and straight-out despair started to soften and eventually disappear. I know I will miss those moments one day soon…

Do you have a mama mantra? Or something you find yourself repeating over and over when times are tough?

This is just a moment in time and even the difficult moments will be ones that I will look back on fondly. This is just the fodder for the stories I will tell Everleigh one day.

By Kathy S.

Kathy S. is Mommy to a beautiful daughter named Cassidy, born in January of 2012. Currently living the small town life in South Western Ontario with her handsome hubby, she is a Sales and Marketing professional with aspirations of being a stay-at-home-mom one day. In her spare time she enjoys cooking/baking, reading, scrapbooking and being outdoors. You can find posts from Kathy in Real Mamas, Real Recipes and Real Reviews.

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