Real Mama: Marcie Lewis

This gorgeous Canadian mama lives on the East coast with her husband and adorable son, Daxon. Her ‘Mama Mantra’ is one that all mama’s should live by!

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Tell us a little about yourself.

My name is Marcie and I’m a 31-year-old full-time working mama. I met my husband, Jeff while attending the University of New Brunswick, in Fredericton, Canada many years ago. In 2009 we married, and in 2011 I gave birth to our amazing little boy, Daxon. I currently work for Municipal Government in Business Development, and Jeff is a high school physical education teacher. In our spare time we like to travel, try different restaurants, and visit with family and friends. I also enjoy the odd cocktail with my girlfriends, but that doesn’t happen much these days!

Where is home? 

Home will always be the beautiful province of Prince Edward Island, Canada. I was born and raised there, only moving away after high school to attend university. I currently live in Amherst, Nova Scotia, Canada with my little family. We’re only about a one-and-a-half hour drive from Prince Edward Island, and travel there often - especially in the summer months to enjoy the world renowned PEI beaches.

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What are your secrets to balancing your life as a working mama?

I’m not so sure my life is balanced! It’s a constant struggle for me, and I’m always working to improve my daily routine as a working mama. Both Jeff’s and my jobs are very busy (mine with a lot of overtime) so often we find ourselves going in different directions and having to juggle parenting. It’s hard. I often get bogged down with the thought of “having and doing it all,” as the saying goes, and I have to come to terms that for our situation it’s just not possible. I find myself struggling daily to give everything to my family, my job and myself. I want to be the best mother and wife I can be. I want to excel and progress in my career and I want to take care of myself by exercising, looking and feeling good. Sadly, something always falls short and I get down on myself for that. I have to remind myself all the time that I’m just doing the best I can and that it WILL be okay.

Who has been your biggest inspiration?

Definitely my mama. I really respect and admire the way she raised my brother, my sister and me. Growing up, my dad worked a lot and my mama was left with all of the parenting responsibilities, as well as household. She also held a demanding full-time job, and was highly respected in her career in which she worked for over 30 years. I’ve often wondered since having my own child, how she did it all? As children, we were never without anything. We were able to participate in extracurricular activities and sports whenever we wanted, and always knew how loved we were. My mama worked hard to give us everything we had, and to allow us to do all the things a child should. She instilled morals, values and a work ethic in each of us that I believe, made us who we are today… and I think we are three pretty decent people thriving in our own lives, university educated with good jobs, happy and healthy. As a parent, I know that’s what I want for my child, and I respect and admire the way my mama was able to do it for us. She’s an independent, strong, loving woman and I hope to be half as good of a mother as she was, and still is.

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What has been the best advice you’ve received as a mama? What do you feel is the best advice, if any, that you’ve given as a mama?

I think the best advice I’ve received as a mama is to stop listening to other people’s advice! I don’t subscribe to any one type of parenting. I don’t identify myself as either an attachment parent or otherwise. I take what works for us from each parenting style and go with it. What works for some, doesn’t work for others, and I believe in that wholeheartedly. And the best advice I’ve given as a mama? I’m not sure. Maybe… “This too shall pass.” Daxon didn’t sleep well for the first ten months of his life. He had colic and reflux for the first four months. It was a nightmare. I talk to parents now who are going through the same thing and I can completely empathize with them because it literally is torture being so sleep deprived with a screaming baby who cannot be consoled. But the thing about it is, you do it, and you get through it, and it all ends up okay. The colic WILL cease. They WILL sleep someday, and it will be but a distant memory.

Are you the kind of mama you thought you’d be?

I had no idea what kind of mama I wanted or thought I would be. I’d never been the type of person who children gravitated to. I didn’t babysit as a teenager. I have nieces whom I adore, but knew that a relationship with my own child would be much different. I really didn’t know if I had what it took to be a great mama. I was afraid I’d missed the “mommy gene.”  What I’ve come to realize is that the overwhelming feeling of love and adoration you experience when you become a mama IS exactly what it takes. Everything after that just kind of falls into place.

Where do you see yourself in ten years?

I hope to see us as a complete family of four. We hope to give Daxon a little brother or sister in the coming years. I hope to see us all in good health, a little more financially secure, in our “forever home” and just happy being us. Personally, I’d like to be in a fulfilling career, ideally working from home or owning my own business, but those are lofty goals.

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If you could have lunch with anyone famous (dead or alive) who would it be?

Having lunch with someone famous really doesn’t interest me. Give me the opportunity to have lunch with some deceased friends or family members though, and I’m game.

If you could have any superpower, what would it be?

The power to heal the sick. I’d take all illness and disease away from my friends and family so that no one I love would ever have to suffer.

Was your birth experience all that you hoped it would be? If you could go back and change anything, what would it be?

I have nothing but absolutely positive things to say about my birth experience. I consider myself extremely lucky to have had such an easy labor and delivery. I didn’t even know I was in labor until I was five centimeters dilated, and the doctor just checked on a hunch that I might be in labor. I was certainly feeling pain, but didn’t know it was labor pain! Let me just say, it was a good thing I was already at the hospital for some routine tests (Daxon was eight days late at this point) because 30 minutes after being checked, I was ten centimeters dilated and ready to push. I wouldn’t change a single thing about my birth experience and am so grateful to have had the experience I did.

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How has your mothering evolved since those early newborn days? Is there anything, thus far, in your approach to mothering that you swore “I’d never do…” and you are?

I think in the early days I was really nervous. I had no idea what to do and was just following my gut. I’ve become more comfortable now, knowing that following my gut IS the right thing to do, but in those early days you’re just not sure and you question every move you make.

I never thought I would co-sleep and I think Daxon ended up in our bed within the first week after he was born, and he pretty much slept there until he was six months old. Sometimes you just have to do what works. Many, many people criticized us for making this decision, but when you have a child who doesn’t sleep much to begin with, and the very few hours of sleep you are able to obtain are with a baby on your chest… you do it.  End of story.

Do you have a mama mantra? Or something you find yourself repeating over and over when times are tough?

“Everything is going to be okay.” Like I said before, I often get bogged down with the struggle to do it all. My husband is amazing at letting me know that I’m doing a great job and that everything will be fine. We’re a team, and we are surrounded by both of our wonderfully supportive families who are here to help us whenever we need it. I often have to remind myself that I’m not in this alone and that when things seem like too much to handle, our families have our backs. We are blessed.

Is there anything else you wish to share with the Mama Say What?! audience?

Being a parent is overwhelming and frustrating even at the best of times. All too often we forget that we are living the best days of our lives RIGHT NOW. We can’t get these moments back and we have to learn to savor them, enjoying the small moments in each day and stop worrying that the laundry isn’t folded or that there are dishes in the sink. We have to stop sweating the small stuff and start enjoying these precious moments before it’s too late. Children grow far too fast and we have to learn to make the most of right now!

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Real Mama: Marcie Lewis

By Kathy S.

Kathy S. is Mommy to a beautiful daughter named Cassidy, born in January of 2012. Currently living the small town life in South Western Ontario with her handsome hubby, she is a Sales and Marketing professional with aspirations of being a stay-at-home-mom one day. In her spare time she enjoys cooking/baking, reading, scrapbooking and being outdoors. You can find posts from Kathy in Real Mamas, Real Recipes and Real Reviews.

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One Response to Real Mama: Marcie Lewis

  1. I really loved reading this :) I feel I can relate to what Marcie has to say a lot. I would love to visit PEI some day- it is so gorgeous!

    I know before having children, even when I was pregnant, when people would tell me to savor the moment I would kind of roll my eyes at them. I didn\’t really GET IT until having a little one of my own. Nothing shows you how quickly time passes us by, until we have kids!

    Thanks for sharing!!!!!!

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