Real Mama: Melissa Tipton

Image by Ricky Chung Photography

This fun and outgoing, reality television-loving mama takes us along on the ride through her active life with the loves of her life, her boys. Her biggest inspiration? Her son. That little man motivates her every day to be a better mother, wife and friend – so sweet! And her down-to-earth personality makes it very easy to connect with her as a wonderful mama inspiration. Enjoy!

Tell us a little about yourself.
I am an outgoing but shy, confident, athletic, happy, decisive, maybe a tad high strung energetic, motivated, type-A-personality kind of girl. Growing up, I was always into sports and was constantly active and involved in one thing or another.

Currently I am 29 years old and after four years of being together, I married the love of my life and best friend in September 2009. I never really believed in the concept of soulmates but I believe I am lucky enough to have found the person I was truly meant to spend my life with.

We had our first baby boy in March of 2011 and I cannot even explain the joy and happiness being a mom has brought me. We are a very active family… always all over the place attending parties, cookouts, family events and spending time with friends…. I don’t know if we would even know how to be any other way.

I am a full-time working mom, I love being wined and dined, reality television, working out and exercising, being outside, girlfriend time and a good romantic comedy.

Where is home?
We live in a suburb about 15 minutes from Baltimore and 30 minutes from D.C. However home to me really can be anywhere, as long as I am with my boys. My hubby and I talk all the time about just picking up and going somewhere brand new where we don’t know anyone… I think it could be kind of fun.

Image by Alex Christina Photography

What are you secrets to balancing life as a mama, loving wife and a working mama?
To tell you the truth I have no idea, I am still trying to figure that out. I guess I would say just being happy with what you have in the moment you are in. It is hard to not want to think ahead to the next step or the next milestone on your “life list,” but I think it’s more important to be involved and physically and mentally “there” every step of the way to make sure you get the most out of each aspect of your life.

I always try to give my best and really live in the moment, which I think gives me a good balance… as long as I am giving my all in everything I do, I really can’t ask for more.

Who has been your biggest inspiration?
My biggest inspiration is my child. The light in his eyes, his innocence, his interest in learning and growing, the pure love he has for me and my husband, the way he is happy to see me no matter what, his little laugh… everything about him has changed the person I am and makes me want to be a better daughter, woman, friend, wife and mother every single day of my life.

Image by Chris Morris Photography

What has been the best advice you’ve received as a mama? What do you feel is the best advice, if any, you’ve given as a mama?
Best advice I received is to follow your gut. There are a million ways and opinions about how to raise a child and you really just have to do what is best for you and your family no matter who thinks you’re insane or who judges your every decision.

People can tell you what they think or what you should do all they want… as long as you and your partner are OK with the decisions you make together, outside opinions just do not matter.

Also to trust yourself… you know what your baby needs better than anyone else, even if it is different than what people are telling you or if it’s not what people have always done in the past, if its right for you and your family then do it.

Are you the kind of mama you thought you’d be?
Yes… I guess I am more the mama I HOPED I would be. I had all of these preconceived notions before actually having a child and I always wondered where I would fall in line.

I was always worried that I wouldn’t have that “unconditional love and never-wavering devotion to my child” that so many moms talk about and it is so nice to know it just became a natural way of being for me.

Also being a mom has brought out so many emotions and feelings I had never experienced before which to me go hand in hand with what being a “mom” is all about.

Image by Alex Christina Photography

Do you have a mama mantra? Or something you find yourself repeating over and over when times are tough?
“My child is not giving me a hard time; my child is having a hard time.” I like to remind myself that not everything is about how he is “acting” it’s more about how he feels and what he needs. He cannot tell me what is wrong so I HAVE to figure it out; it is my job as his mother.

It’s easy to go through the day-to-day and assume my child is just whining to whine or that he is just having a meltdown because he cannot have what he wants, but to really stop and imagine how he must be feeling and what he needs has become really important to me.

Where do you see yourself in ten years?
I would love to be a stay-at-home-mama to my baby and hopefully will have one or two more little loves running around. I want to be a loving and respecting wife to my husband… and to still be totally in love. Above all, I want to be happy.

If you could have any super power, what would it be?
I would want to fly which is totally ironic because I despise birds and I am afraid of heights!

Was your birth experience all that you had hoped it would be? If you could go back and change anything, what would it be?
Yes for the most part it was all that I hoped it would be – it didn’t go EXACTLY as I wished but my only hope for my birth experience is that I would be holding my healthy baby in the end and that is exactly what I got.

I didn’t go into labor and delivery with any real expectations because I didn’t want to be disappointed if things didn’t go how I planned. I had a very open mind and trusted my doctor knew what was best for us.

I think this is what really led to my happy experience overall. If I could go back and change something… it would probably be to take birth videos and photography. I find myself wanting to go back to that day more than I ever imagined and to have those memories captured for me to experience over and over would be amazing.

Image by Alex Christina Photography

How has your mothering evolved since those early newborn days? Is there anything, thus far, in your approach to mothering that you swore “I’d never do…” and you are?
I have learned to pick my battles— not everything has to be perfect or go my way. Since the newborn stage I feel like I really have begun to excel and become comfortable in the role of mama… it’s natural and I find myself listening to my gut a lot more and not over analyzing every little thing.

I don’t think there is much that I swore I would never do but have done yet. Most of the things I said I would never do, I never did. There are things I do that surprise me though.

Oh wait, I said I would never change my schedule for my child’s nap. I always just thought he would adjust and would have to be flexible, but was I ever wrong! We work around him and what he needs… (Eating my words)

Is there anything else you wish to share with the “Mama Say What” audience?
Sometimes even if a mama isn’t quite like you and you differ on parenting styles more than you can explain, you can still learn from them. Also don’t knock it till you try it… you never know what another mama is going through. Until you are in her shoes, don’t judge.

By Erin F.

Erin doesn't claim to be an expert in any of these areas, but she definitely has a perspective that we think you can really relate to. This working mommy to 2-year old rockstar, Mr. Cam, wears her heart on her sleeve and hopes that her real-life stories (sometimes mildly pathetic) will serve as self assurance to other new super-moms out there! Her biggest piece of advice? KNOW that you are a fantastic mom and trust your instincts. After all, mother knows best!

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2 Responses to Real Mama: Melissa Tipton

  1. What a great Mom, I enjoyed reading your story. Love the picture at the beach too, so cute.

  2. Pingback: Gavin's Circus of a 2nd Birthday Party Mama Say What?! | Mama Say What?!

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