Real Mama: Whitney Hall

Tell us a little about yourself…

I am a 23-year-old wife and mom of a one-year-old baby girl named Emma. I met my husband when we were 13 and we got married November 19, 2011. I am a stay-at-home-mom, which is a huge blessing. I have an addiction to Pinterest, especially now that we just moved into a new house. I volunteer with the youth group at my church which is something my husband and I have been doing for years.

Where is home?

My family and I currently live in Houston, Texas and just bought our first home. It is a cute three-bedroom townhouse and we are so excited!

What are your secrets to balancing your life as a stay-at-home-mama?

My secret is lots of coffee! Besides that, I do my best to have some sort of alone time every day— whether it is in the morning before my little sweetie wakes up or during her nap time. I also get dressed every day. Whether it is just workout clothes or something a little nicer, I always get dressed. It makes me feel human!

Who has been your biggest inspiration?

Ha! This is hilarious but my biggest inspiration has been a mama that I don’t even know! I started following her blog and her daughter is a couple months older then Emma. She is a great blogger and posts about the good days AND the bad days.

I think one of my favorite posts was when she wrote about her daughter’s first tantrum at a bank. I died laughing because we all know how that goes. Not only did she write about it, but her husband took pictures. It was SO awesome to see a real mama who doesn’t try and portray a perfect life but is actually real!

What has been the best advice you’ve received as a mama? What do you feel is the best advice, if any, that you’ve given as a mama?

Do it your way! People thought I was nuts that I only read one parenting book when I was pregnant and that I wasn’t glued to the computer looking up everything there was to know about birth and raising a baby.

First of all, I read about one chapter of What To Expect and started crying! Everything in that book told me that my baby was going to die unless I put her in a plastic bubble. From that point on, I found one book that I loved called Bringing Up Bebe that read like a novel and I loved it!

The best advice I could ever give would be that you need to remember that you are raising a person— your goal should to be to make them understand that they are not the center of the universe and to make them be as self-sufficient as possible. Now by that I don’t mean that you should expect your two-month-old to tell you in complete sentences what she needs, but when you are cooking dinner and your toddler wants to be picked up for no reason to be held right then and there, teach them that you are busy right now and that they need to learn to wait.

Are you the kind of mama you thought you’d be?

I had no idea what kind of mom I was going to be. But I can say that being a mom felt like the most natural thing I could ever do. The minute I held my baby girl I knew that I was born to be her mama.

I thought I was going to freak out all the time and really have no idea what I was doing and surprisingly, when my husband would ask me what do, an answer would come pouring out of my mouth like I had known for years how to get a baby back to sleep!

Where do you see yourself in ten years?

I’m not really sure, but I think I will probably have a bigger family and be even happier than I am right now, which is so hard to imagine.

If you could have any superpower, what would it be?

The ability to not have to sleep! I have so much that needs to get done and so many things that I want to do and I wish I could just have endless amounts of energy!

Was your birth experience all that you hoped it would be? If you could go back and change anything, what would it be?

I had a pretty good birth experience. I had amazing nurses and my husband was so fantastic. I wish I had stood up for myself more instead of letting my doctor dictate to me that the baby needed to come. She was not stressed at all, her heart rate was totally fine and my doctor said I need cesarean section just because I hadn’t made a lot of progress. STAND UP FOR YOURSELF MAMAS! I can tell you now that next time, I plan on going to a birth center instead of a hospital.

How has your mothering evolved since those early newborn days? Is there anything, thus far, in your approach to mothering that you swore “I’d never do…” and you are?

I think I have become more confident and I don’t ask for approval as much as I used to. I used to ask seasoned moms if I was doing something “right” or get their opinion on every little thing. While I still ask for advice, it’s not as constant and I tweak a lot of things that others tell me to do to fit my family. 

I SWORE I would never let Emma watch TV. Well I can tell you now that Daniel Tiger is a favorite in our house and when she had to get blood drawn I let her play with a Fisher Price app I have on my phone.

I don’t have the TV on mindlessly or anything and I am careful to watch how much screen time she gets, but when I was pregnant, I said she wasn’t going to EVER see a screen. Sometimes the only way to get through a car ride is a little bit of screen time.

Do you have a mama mantra? Or something you find yourself repeating over and over when times are tough?

The good days outweigh the bad. This is sometimes hard to remember when there are a few bad days in row, but it is true, and I do remind myself of that all the time. I also tell myself that I am only human and some days it is just not all going to get done and that is OK. I am blessed to have a VERY understanding husband.

Is there anything else you wish to share with the Mama Say What?! audience?

Don’t worry about being Pinterest perfect! You know what is right for you and your family, so be confident!

One Response to Real Mama: Whitney Hall

  1. I love Bringing up Bebe! It was crazy to see my personal parenting style written down in a book! So nice to know other mamas parent the same way I do!

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